Please (For Your Own Sake), Don’t Be “That” Person!

By on February 28, 2014

Know all business person with answer to questionA couple weeks ago, I had lunch with a friend and fellow chiropractic physician, Dr. Amanda.

I brought up one of our mutual friends (who lives close to Dr. Amanda) who had been complaining on Facebook about her neck pain-I asked if she knew about our mutual friend’s pain, to which she stated the following:

“Yes, I do know.  She knows what I do, and what I can help with-I just don’t want to be ‘that’ person in our group”.

I found what she said so short, eloquent, yet powerfully descript.  In a few words, she described that even though she understands health, she won’t try to impose herself on other people.

Not surprisingly, there’s a reason why Dr. Amanda is one of the most respected people within our circle of friends-she lives what she believes, but doesn’t try to force those beliefs on everyone else.

So, what does my talk with Dr. Amanda have to do with weight loss?  

A lot, really-we all know them-someone, who in a group, has a million ideas for what you should be doing (weight-loss one of them) in your life, yet doesn’t follow the information they preach themselves. They invite un-needed strife, and even arguments into their lives.

They make themselves known at every restaurant gathering, party, and social event-talking about which diet they’re doing, and more importantly (in their eyes), which diet you should be doing.  They’re the person that everyone rolls their eyes about and says “Oh, this time, Mary’s on her (insert diet plan XXXX here) kick”.

Not only does this put enormous pressure on Mary to try to keep up with her own diet plan, lest seeming like a hypocrite, but it also leads her to alienate herself from the group of people she cares about the most.
And all too often, the way Mary chooses to avoid alienation, is through giving up any healthy eating habits she’s acquired for the sake of seeming ‘normal’.

Want a better solution?

Keep your dietary opinions to yourself!

Is your friend slamming a dozen Ho-Hos across the table from you?  Talk about the weather.  Talk about what you’re doing this weekend. For crying out loud, talk about literacy rates in Finland! What ever you do, don’t talk about your opinion regarding the HoHos!  If they want to ask opinion, gently (and briefly) explain what you’re trying to do for yourself.  Just don’t tell them what they should be doing!

Asked by the waiter if you’d like bread with your meal? A simple “no, thanks” works great-they don’t need to hear about your latest low-carb adventure.  Offered cake at a party, and looked at funny when you tell the host(ess) “no thanks”?  Tell them you have blood sugar issues, and that you’re just watching what you eat a bit (chances are, if you get frequent cravings for sweets, you probably do have blood sugar issues).

That’s how to do it.

Simple, unassuming, and non-threatening-an answer that won’t provoke the dreaded eye rolls, and lingering feeling of group alienation.

Have a great weekend, enjoy your friends, and enjoy life!

Dr. Mike

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About Michael Tremba

Dr. Michael Tremba, once severely overweight himself, has studied to distinguish the truth about weight loss, and the shocking mis-information that's taught to us by many "trusted" groups. Through the techniques that have helped him regain his health, he shares uncommon tools to help anyone else desiring to lose weight to live the life they're meant to. He enjoys reading, exercising, travelling, and spending time with his wife, Shari in Mobile, Alabama Find me on Twitter, Google+ and let's connect on LinkedIn.
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