Your body weight, your responsiblity (to a point)

By on February 21, 2012

“It’s not really your fault…..”

Has a nice ring to it though, don’t you think?  Saying those words can make you feel really great, all the while gladly handing your money over to hear more things that make you feel good about being overweight.

Here’s some other hallmark lines that enslave our population in a state of constant victim-hood….

“Obesity is a developing problem based on genetics that is afflicting our population…”

“You’re just programmed that way….. you’re designed to weigh more than most other people….”

Why are those statements so damaging? Because they leave the person that ‘buys’ them in a constant state of victim-hood, not realizing they have the ability to make the changes toward health.

That being said,  it’s important to know the following about most overweight people:

1. They’re well-aware that they are, and don’t particularly like it.

2. They’ve tried different weight-loss programs and have failed at each one.

3. Rather than just not caring about their weight, they’ve actually obsessed about it.  In fact, they’ve typically obsessed to the degree that they don’t know what else to do, and have quit trying out of sheer exhaustion.
So, are we to then look at these people, and simply say “it’s all your fault”?

No–not only is it damaging, but it’s also not completely true.

In the absence of the proper information, you CANNOT be expected to take credit for many of your weight loss failures.  So many people tell me that they’re doing EVERYTHING  RIGHT to lose weight.  However, upon seeing their lifestyle choices based on what they’re told by some well-meaning sources, (others more profit-driven), it’s completely understandable to see why they keep failing.

Many thoughtful people choose to make the mistake of eating things like Lean Cuisine, snack-wells, baked lays, diet Pepsi, and Low Fat muffins….  They can’t figure out why their hunger cravings are out of control, and no matter how hard they try, they have their bouts with ensuing poor food choices.

Should these people be told “it’s your fault”?

Absolutely not.

That being said however, did someone pick up a fork, and shove the food into their mouth?  Were they held against their will and made to eat until they became overweight?


Is it equally damaging to say “it isn’t your fault”?


So, where exactly does the responsibility lie?

It’s important to know the following: in the absence of knowing what truly is healthy, and conducive to weight loss, it’s not really your fault for being overweight. After all, how can you be faulted for something that you have no way of knowing?

However, your responsibility  does involve two things:

1. Searching for the truth about how to permanently lose weight.  Hint: when you find it, you won’t be hungry, and you won’t need pills or surgery to lose it.

2. Once finding how to lose weight , holding yourself accountable to it.

If you stop searching, the fault does lie with you… If you do find what works, but don’t hold yourself accountable, once again, the fault does lie with you.

Like it or not, the energy to learn/try new things ultimately boils down to your responsibility.  No one else’s.  The sooner you educate yourself on how to be healthy, AND  accept responsibility for it, the quicker you can begin losing weight.  Conversely, without properly understanding this, you’re doomed to keep repeating the same mistakes–headed for a life filled with a constant state of being tired, overweight, and worse yet, a complete illusion that you’re somehow a victim in your weight-loss failure.

Most people find that it’s easier to be the victim rather than keep searching.  This is impart why there are so many overweight people that have accompanying victim mentalities.

Somehow in your search, you’ve actually landed at a place to get the tools you need for permanent weight loss.  All you need to do is click here to get those tools for free.

Whatever you decide, please realize that it is indeed your choice–victim-hood, or responsibility.



About Michael Tremba

Dr. Michael Tremba, once severely overweight himself, has studied to distinguish the truth about weight loss, and the shocking mis-information that's taught to us by many "trusted" groups. Through the techniques that have helped him regain his health, he shares uncommon tools to help anyone else desiring to lose weight to live the life they're meant to. He enjoys reading, exercising, travelling, and spending time with his wife, Shari in Mobile, Alabama Find me on Twitter, Google+ and let's connect on LinkedIn.

One Comment

  1. I think accountability as you mention is one of the most important things, you need to hold yourself accountable for your actions and not taking action. But for many of us it is hard to stick to a diet or exercise plan anyway. Don’t just search for how to lose weight, also search for how to build the mental strength to carry on all the way to the finish line. It’s hard work.

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